This was going to be a rant about women never getting a day off, but I decided against it in favor of a different issue concerning women. Aren't you glad?
I've found a disturbing truth out about my job. I honestly hadn't suspected that anything was amiss and even though I'd seen a symptom or two, the realization that there is a silent epidemic among women surprised me.
No, it's not breast cancer, it's loneliness.
Part of my job, a big part, is to develop relationships with the members. In this way we can support and encourage them. I'm good at this. I'm a people person (just ask anyone). But what do you say to women who say, "I don't have any friends"?
It's not that they are blurting this tid bit out mid-workout. It just sorta comes out. I'll ask what they did over the weekend and they say nothing. They'll talk about their work, but no social life. Sooner or later they admit that they don't have any friends, that they spend their time away from work running errands or watching TV.
I am simply flabbergasted.
These are intelligent, friendly, people. They come from all walks of life and all age groups. They have no friends. The thought sends a shiver down my spine and it makes me wonder if I'm some sort of an odd-ball.
Okay, yes thank you, I know I'm an odd-ball, but do you understand what I'm saying? These women HAVE NO FRIENDS. None. Nada. They don't lean on one another for support. They don't go to lunch. They don't catch up on the phone or spend time IMing their buddy. It boggles the mind. It really does.
I find myself growing ever more thankful for my circle of friends. I am blessed indeed. But I've always been a mother hen. I want to fix these women. In fact, I almost burst out the other day with, "I'll be your friend", but frankly, these women at my work are still dating my representative and they don't know the real me.
Let's not scare them shall we Annie? Step away from the lady. No, you will not write her a little card of encouragement. You will not invite her to lunch. Step away. Keep your hands to yourself. Put your sad eyes away. Focus.
It's a big lonely world out there folks and I wonder, do we make it better by being in it? Or are we simply running through our day, oblivious to the lonely souls around us?